Monday, 5 December 2011

chines etique



Throughout most of China's long history, the relationship between people in all classes were based on carefully prescribed forms of behavior that covered virtually every aspect of conduct - so much so and to such a degree that learning and following proper etiquette was one of the major facets of life. The higher one was on the social ladder, the more meticulous and demanding were the rules of etiquette.

The Chinese word for etiquette, li, which orginally meant "to sacrifice," refers to the fact that following legally sanctioned etiquette required extraordinary sacrifices, not to mention detailed knowledge of hundreds of correct forms of behavior. Training in this highly prescribed way of living was so thorough, so pervasive, that people were judged first, last, and sometimes always on how closely they followed these rules of behavior. Etiquette came to be equated not only with learning in general, but with culture and morality - even nationality and nationalism.

The Chinese eventually came to believe that their behavior was the only correct etiquette in the universe, that all who did not follow then same meticulous rules of conduct were uncivilized barbarians. Of course, the rules of etiquette in China today are no longer enforced by harsh feudal sanctions and they have been considerably relaxed, but they remain very important. There are still formalities, particularly in business and formal situations, that are ingrained in the behavior of the Chinese.

At meetings, for example, the leader of the group acts as spokesperson for the whole group. Whatever differences of opinion the members of the group may have are resolved beforehand or afterward. The American custom for everyone to speak out during meetings and for differences to be hashed out on the spot goes against the Chinese grain.

The Chinese attempt to control every aspect of meetings, from the first greetings and introductions, to the order of seating, the content of the discussions, and how they are conducted. This is not entirely a ploy to take and keep the advantage, although that is surely a primary aim. It is also to ensure that the meeting goes smoothly and that there are no surprises.
One of the essences of Chinese relationships that play a key role in meetings, negotiations, and ongoing relationships is that the basic relationship is not between individuals or people per se. It is between bureaucratic organizations, with all that this implies - meaning that the relationships are conducted on a higher, abstract level, with the individuals taking little or no personal responsibility.

This approach means that the individual Chinese businessperson or government official can never be pinned down personally, that he are she always has an out and can delay things, stop things, or do other things in the name of the organization, no matter how irrational or stupid they may appear to be to the outsider.

While foreign businesspeople on a high executive level generally have the authority to make decisions on the spot, to make changes in company policy - or at least in what the company will accept in particular situations - the Chinese either do not have such authority or will claim not to have it when it suits their purpose. Generally they must in fact refer the matter to their organization to get consensus agreement, or they use this as a way of gaining time and/or their own ends.

The Chinese negotiating techniques has been likened to both guerrilla warfare and psychological warfare - strike, retreat; strike, retreat; confuse the enemy, get them off guard, weaken their will, make them feel guilty for opposing you, make a "final offer" that is considerably below what they know is acceptable.

Unlike most foreign businesspeople, Chinese officials and managers have often had considerable experience in psychological tactics, in cross-examining and intimidating opponents. It is also typical Chinese behavior to withhold information, to reveal as little as possible about their own situation, putting the foreigner at a further disadvantage.

The use of the strike-retreat technique while opponents thrash about trying to defend themselves and mount a counterattack at the same time is apparently drawn from the same principle as the dai ji juan martial art. This is said to have been created by a priest after he watched a bird of prey attack a snake. In its attempt to strike the snake, the bird eventually wore itself down, made a mistake, and was nailed by the writhing reptile.

Of course, some of the rules of behaviour sanctioned in the Chinese system were common enough and benign. For example, during the early generations following the invention of eyeglasses in China it was considered exceptionally rude for a person wearing glasses to speak to someone without first removing the glasses. The Western parallel, of course, is removing one's hat before speaking to someone.

While the handshake is now a common form of greeting among most Chinese, the traditional greeting is to cup one's own hands (left over right), chest high, and raise them slightly while bowing. In earlier times when greeting someone of superior social standing, it was customary to raise the hands as high as the forehead and to execute a low bow.

When offering an object such as a gift of a drink to someone, as well as when receiving something from someone, it is polite to use both hands.

At hosted meals, it is the responsibility of the host - not waiters or servants - to see that the guests' drinking glasses are refilled. It is also mandatory in Chinese etiquette for the host to accompany each guest to the door when a meal or party ends. Ranking guests are normally accompanied all the way to their automobiles, and the host waits until they drive away before going back inside.

It is Chinese etiquette to say no when offered a drink, a meal, a gift, or a favor. It is up to you the host to politely persist, without being crude or rude.

In Chinese eitquette, there are prescribed manners for everyone at mealtimes, when in the presence of superiors, and when greeting and seeing guests off. One always accompanies guests to the entrance or to the upper floor elevators if they are leaving your office building. The host normally pushes the elevator button, then waits until his guests are in the elevator and the door closes before returning to his office.

Monday, 10 October 2011


did u guys see that picture????
sure you all see right....
hurrmmmm...what gonna talk??
I think you all have an idea right....
okey...i don't want to waste,lets us proceed.

on my title i already say right what i wanna discuss tonight....
why i proud to be Malaysian...
it was really wide topics for me....because that so many reasons why i proud to be Malaysian.

1. Malaysian is one country that have so many races, ethnics , community, religion and belief 
but the peoples in this country can live in peace.
2. Malaysian history also can make me proud to be "ANAK MALAYSIA and ANAK MERDEKA"
because not all county on this world have same history with my country.
3. Nowdays, Malaysia is one of the developing country like other develop countries..
4. Malaysians success not only in Malaysia but has become the focus in the eyes of  world.
5. Malaysians remain united despite living in multi-ethinc.

okeyh.....i think it is enough for me to lists why I am proud to be MALYSIAN
before i ends my entry for this times let's see few video made by MALAYSIAN to say WE ALL PROUD TO BE MALAYSIAN ( show our spirits love or country)





oke....enough for this entry.....I'M PROUD TO BE MALAYSIAN

Wassalam....(^^,)v ---> Malaysia !!!

(norlia halmi entry)

our neighbor ???

10/10/11 - Benefits Derive from Good Foreign Relations

it's take time for me to think about this topic...
but for my next meeting we needed to discuss about this topic....
Good Foreign Relations here mean country that being our neighbors...
for examples our neighbors is Indonesia,Thailand, Singapore,Brunei and Philippines..
then for the task that we need to complete on that weeks is who our neighbor gives benefits for our country.

so,as usual we will form few small groups...then lucky me because for this sessions,
 I will partner with Kak ILA..
then country that we will present is Brunei...
then small topics that we discuss is about how Brunei brings benefit for our country.
so I will present how Brunei benefits our country in tourism..
as we know, Brunei near with Sarawak, so it quite gives benefits for that state.

Brunei society usually will go to Sarawak for holiday or shoppings.
nearest places for them to have a holiday is MIRI ( city just like Kuching ).
other than that Malaysian society also can visit Brunei for holiday trips.
both of our country and Brunei each require not only in tourism, but in other side to.

okey..only this I would shared for my EEP entry
wait for next entry..

(norlia halmi entry)

Monday, 3 October 2011

next meeting


for this weeks we all already given an assignment...(should i called it an assignment?? )maybe...
for this meeting we had given  3 big topics with is related more to concept of "multi"...
what are " multi " that i mention before.....there are multi-ethnic, multi-cultural, and multi-religion.

then after few minutes briefing about 3 concepts...
we had divides to few small groups....then i'm grouping with Zarith ...huhuhu
then our topics is multi-cultural...

what is multi-cultural......???
multi-cultural is about the cultural in our nation .
For example of cultural is wedding ceremony,, celebration ceremony such as "Hari Raya, New Years, Depavali...and other ceremony...either than that....our custom also have their own culture.....
such as " Baju Melayu,,Sari,Chong Sam,, Samfoo...and soon...

we are lucky because our country have so many cultural that we can have shared to others....


Monday, 26 September 2011

chocolate cake n ice breaking time .

finally after everyone agree with new time for our meeting,,so on 26/9/2011
all of us get all the group of RM.
on the seconds meeting, we did not have any presentation anymore...
but we all start our meeting or i can classify as lecture with ice breaking time...
but this time, my ice breaking quite unique,,because we did not introduce our self but we introduce our friend,,
so,on that day,,we need to introduce my friends,,,...
other than that....that quite lucky for us because our lecturer bring some chocolate cake.....
oke...that all for 1st meeting....

Monday, 19 September 2011

~ first meeting ~

just now i want to share about our first meeting..
first of all...what is EEP ???
i'm also don't know what is EEP....function of this course...huhuhu
that why i come for our first meeting !!!
this new subject was related with SDG that we had done before...but EEP more to learn about our own interesting right..??
hurmmmm...actually EEP is stand for LIVING IN THE MULTI-CULTURAL SOCIETY..
this class (should i called it class??? hrmmmm..whatever lar...)
this class should be conduct at 5 pm- 7pm on Thursday ...
but we all in group RM stand for (RINGGIT MALAYSIA) was soooooo...... lucky...
our lecture . . . MADAM NORAZILA BINTI ALI a.k.a MADAM ZEE , very kindly change our time and day that suitable for all of us join our meeting (^_^)
then just now...our session for meeting EEP was on MONDAY at 3.30 pm . .
then she (our madam) shortly brief about the important of this course and benefits that can us gain through this EEP especially in improving our 3s.
okey..! that all for first meeting us...for the syllabus and the details what had we discuss on the next entry...
see ya....

(liya halmi entry)

Monday, 12 September 2011

~second blog~

actually this is my second blog after
so,, first of all, let me introduce myself....(*_*)
name given to me was Norlia Binti Halmi (daughter of uncle halmi) : D
then i come from oversea ( just syok sendiri,don't how to write in proper English) : P
actually come from Kuching , Sarawak . oversea right ??? (6_9)
again what should i right??? lose my idea just now...
loading for an idea...
ha.... i got it....
oke k k k.....
i have 7 siblings 3 brothers, 2 sisters and 1 little brother which more bigger n taller than me..(~_~)
so on that range....(i use range?? how come !!!) hehehe...
i'm the 6 one after my brother and my sister then before my lil' brother. (^__^)
i studying in "INFORMATION TECHNOLOGY" of course u'll know right....
so my majoring is in "Artificial Intelligence" a.k.a "AI"
hurmmmmmmm.....i think that enough for my writing for the begining....
wait for the next entry...(=^_^=)
picture family on aid 2010. me not included that time because i "beraya diperanatuan" (T-T)

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